Nov 162012
Beauty is not skin deep

Beauty is not what you do to your body, but what is already there. Photo by Victor Habbick/

Beauty is not skin deep; it goes right to the bone.

We all know the metaphor “beauty is skin deep,” but I disagree. True beauty goes right into the depths of our souls.

We’ve all seen pictures of cancer patients without hair and we see them as beautiful. We’ve seen plus size models and secretly wished we were that attractive. And we’ve seen older women who could make young, sexy models feel ashamed.

What do these people have in common? Their inner beauty shines through their superficial external and makes them beautiful.

Beauty versus Sexy

Beauty is also more than being in the “eyes of the beholder.” The beholder’s eyes may be influenced by biological needs, therefore giving in to the threshold of natural selection and innate desires. The inherent need to procreate blinds the judgment of the beholder. This judgment then feeds into the idea that being sexy must be considered beauty. So it’s our minds that fool us into believing that sexy means beauty.

The current societal norm has beauty and sexy thrown into the same definition. Being sexy is not being beautiful. Being sexy is just falling into the ideations of what others desire of us. Feeling sexy stimulates our natural hormones whilst fooling us into believing it’s beautiful. This deception comes from our inner core and is encouraged by misleading dogma. Yes, we are fooling ourselves with Mother Nature’s blessing.

The truth is that sexy is biological and beauty is psychological. The difference is clear once you understand the dynamics.

Women think they are beautiful only when they can appear sexy to others. Bigger lips, voluptuous breasts, smaller waists and long tresses are all attributes that attract an amorous partner for sensual pleasure. That’s not beauty, that’s sexy.

Don’t misunderstand; the act of sex can be beautiful, but only if the idea of sexy is removed. Making love comes from the mind and is beautiful. Having sex is just that, having sex, without any beautiful meaning attached to it. Again, these are two different meanings.

Beauty can be a lot of things. It can be attitude, compassion, tolerance and patience. It can be with or without make-up, in a dress and heels or lounging around in sweat pants. It can also be bald, overweight and mature.

Beauty always comes from the soul, not the hormones.

If you want to be sexy, get botox. If you want to be beautiful, develop beauty from within.

Accept your body type with all its imperfections. This acceptance of yourself will radiate more beauty than any cosmetic surgery could ever do.

Go out in the world and be your beautiful self.