Jun 122013
Coming out of the closet

A person has inner changes when coming out of the closet. Courtesy image by Bob Lowe/freedigitalphotos.net

When individuals make a choice to ‘come out of the closet,’ it is so much more than identifying as LGBT (Lesbians, Gays, Bisexual and Trans). The sexual preference is only a part of the lifestyle change they will encounter. Things change, lives change and inner feelings change.

Unless you’ve been in the closet and emerged, you can’t comprehend this metamorphosis.

LGBT individuals may have lived their whole lives as an outcast. That outcast feeling could have contributed to numerous disharmonies with [outward] mendacity.

Out of the Closet

Yes, coming out of the closet will change things as it transforms the person from the inside out. It’s not just the lifestyle, but this whole persona ‘thing’ changes. It changes how the people feel about themselves and affects how they present themselves to society. Coming out of the closet has an essence of personal illumination, while baring one’s soul for others to see.

Some people will shun them while others will exaggerate the friendship to ‘prove’ they support equal rights. LBGT individuals know this. While they appreciate the ‘over-the-top’ support, patronizing is not needed. They are gay, not stupid.

They just want to be treated fairly. They want to be seen as normal.

When LGBT individuals tried to be ‘normal,’ they couldn’t be so they learned to lie … from the inside. They learned to lie to be accepted by family, friends and co-workers. This ‘lie to others and oneself’ lifestyle has a different kind cognitive dissonance than what heterosexual individuals go through. It’s deeper, more intense.

Living as a fictitious actor in your life, not as a real person.

The lying was to reduce the stress brought on by society (external influences) while concurrently the stress increased from inner falsehood (internal influences).

Once the decision to come out of the closet is made, the inner stress is lifted tremendously. No more hiding behind a facade of ‘status quo’ expectations, no more trying to be someone else to fit in societal norms and no more inner hate from lying to themselves.

The LGBT community still has a long way to go. While the need to be alert to certain ideologies from certain people may never go away, coming out of the closet allows for a complete acceptance from within, not just the sexual preference.