Oct 102014

In Jesus’ Eyes by Fran Childress – Praying Hands by Albrecht Dürer

When you pray to the heavenly Father or to the Messiah, are there times you feel your prayer fell on deaf ears? As if you were invisible to God or you are being completely ignored?

There are reasons for that.

To begin with, let me inform you I am not an academic expert at praying and don’t claim to be (Jesus was not a scholarly man either) but in my quest, I’ve come up with four probable reasons (non-believers can skip down to the fourth reason):

Four Common Prayer Mistakes


First reason:

In most cases, you are correct in thinking your prayer was not heard but it’s not because God feels you are not worthy. It is more complex than that but to put it simply, prayer is a two-way, active communication system. Think of it like this; if someone was to talk your ear off, eventually you will turn her off and not listen to her anymore. The same can be applied to prayer, it works both ways. You have to actively ‘listen’ to God to have the communication reciprocal. God is not your audience and you are not giving Him a presentation.

Second reason:

What are you praying for? Do you want to win the lottery so you can quit working? Or do you want to change God’s will in favor of your own will? If the underlying request is for personal gain, it is not considered legitimate but in your sub-conscious, you already know that. God discerns what is in your heart and when your prayer consists of self-absorbed favors, chances are your prayer will not be answered.

Third reason:

Prayers are powerful. When you understand the difference between your will and God’s will, prayers can be used as a powerful weapon and yes, they do work. How they work is God gave us free will (although His will always trumps ours). But that free will is contingent on our ability to believe it will materialize. Once we believe (and understand what our prayer intentions are), that prayer will be heard. Most of you know the meaning of ‘amen’ is ‘so be it’ which we are taught to end a prayer with. The concept of ‘so be it’ is that we understand AND believe that it will come to pass. In other words, “so it will be.” We say ‘so it will be’ at the end of our prayer request. This is powerful! We all have that power if our prayers are sincere.

Fourth reason (for non-believers):

Whether you are a Christian, an atheist or pragmatic, the concept of prayer can all be considered the same. A Christian can pray, an atheist and a pragmatic can meditate, all of which renders the inner soul or spirit in a vulnerable bio-psychological state. What you want, you will make happen in believing it will happen. You are ‘willing’ it to happen. This can be thought of as a self-fulfilling prophecy. A humble example would be reading your horoscope and swearing it correctly predicted certain events. Since you were aware of the prophecy, you ‘made’ it happen or exaggerated situations to ‘fit’ that prophecy.


There can be various other reasons why your prayer was not answered but I believe the ones I listed are the most common ones. Understanding and believing are the core components of prayer. Try it out sometime!

And remember, amen means ‘so be it.’

How to Pray

In Jesus’ Eyes